Bring up five happy things for every problem

from 25 Ways to Get Connected….

Sure, it’s important to get problems out in the open. But the happiest couples dwell much more on what’s right in their little world than what’s wrong, according to Redbook Marriage Institute expert John Gottman, Ph.D. Gottman’s research has found that the strongest couples actually make five times as many positive statements to and about each other and their relationship as negative ones. No need to keep a tally; just remember to keep the complaints to a minimum on a daily basis. And make a habit of hitting happy notes instead: Praise your guy’s grill skills … admire his abs … let him know you’re madly in love with your home, leaky roof and all.